Thirty years ago, a young Brian Frink painted a rose for Wilbur Neushwander when she graduated from high school. That's all it took to convince her to date him.
Eighteen years later, he found it much harder to convince Neushwander, by then his wife, that they should buy the massive, dilapidated former Blue Earth County Poor Farm just south of Mankato.
At the time, the couple were living in a Cape Cod-style home in a "nice little neighborhood" in west Mankato, said Neushwander, 51, a playwright and community organizer for Arc of Minnesota Southwest.
In that nice little neighborhood, Frink, 53, an art professor at Minnesota State University, Mankato and a painter with a penchant for large canvases, had to paint in the two-car garage. "I didn't want to be a painter just working in his garage. I wanted to be a painter," Frink said.
He took his argument to France. Driving around the French countryside in 1998, "he kept telling me the poor farm would look like one of those chateaus or farmhouses," said Neushwander. True, it was built in the 1870s, but the poor farm wasn't exactly chateau-like when Frink ambushed her the night before their trip, arranging to "just stop by on the way to Target."
"I had to step on a box to look in the window," Neushwander said of her first peek inside. "I saw a dark tunnel and a stairway leading to more darkness. And a smell -- musty, earthy and organic."
Still, Neushwander turned out to be game.
She had followed Frink to the Williamsburg neighborhood of New York City's Brooklyn borough in the early 1980s, working as a nurse while Frink painted and worked construction jobs for cash. Of the time and place Frink said, "It was a hard, abrasive life, really awful," but their 2,000-square-foot warehouse loft could be constantly rearranged, something the art-loving couple both liked.