Sally Mainquist, a veteran accountant and small business owner, recently learned through an informal employee survey that seven of her 39 workers have a parent or in-law suffering from Alzheimer's disease.
"A fellow business owner I know was asking, 'What's next?,' " she said last week. "He's a friend and competitor. Three young kids and now his mom has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's."
Mainquist has a clue. Her mother, Jo Ann Sullivan, died in 2009 at age 76, after 13 years with the disease.
Mainquist considers herself fortunate because she and her five siblings were able to help their dad care for their mom for years.
"We kept her at home for as long as possible," Mainquist said. "And nursing homes are so expensive.
"It gets to be so emotional," said Mainquist, recalling with a tear the cheery, smart mom who was the heart of her big Iowa family. "It can be overwhelming, emotionally. It gets so that their bodies are there but not their minds. Of the top 10 diseases, this is the only one without a cure."
I believe Alzheimer's robbed my Grandma Josie of her warm personality. In the early 1960s, when I was 9 or 10, my parents took in dad's ailing folks. I was confused by grandma's increasingly disheveled state, her confusion and the harsh words she spewed, on occasion, at my mom.
Dad told me to ignore it, that she had "hardening of the arteries."