I steered the car off the highway in Serbia after navigating the mountainous roads for more than an hour. My wife, Melody Gilbert, and I needed a quick break. Belgrade, the first stop on this weeklong driving trip from our home in Blagoevgrad, Bulgaria, was still three hours away.
We weren't looking for gas or provisions when we pulled into the first place we saw, and that proved to be a good thing. The "gas station" was abandoned. No gas. No goods. No services. Then we spied the restrooms on the far side of the building. We weren't sure where the next stop would be, so we tried the door. One restroom was open.
Just as Melody headed inside, a man with well-groomed gray hair and a tailored sweater came striding across the vast parking lot. He wasn't menacing. He was smiling, but he also was telling us, in Serbian, to just wait a minute.
The gentleman had keys and was eager to tidy up the place before we entered.
After he finally allowed Melody to go in, our new friend approached me. He had something to show me. He hustled into a small office-like enclosure, reached under a barren countertop and pulled out two plastic jars of homemade pickled peppers, their sides sticky from vinegar that had leaked out.
The bounty was mine, he said, for 5 euros. I shrugged. I didn't need them and the cost seemed exorbitant. But I also didn't want to offend. The peppers looked fine, and the rest stop was a welcome sight. Besides, I thought, sometimes you have to pay for toilet privileges around here. So I dug out a 5 euro note and handed it over, poorer in euros but richer in peppers.
While I took my turn inside, Melody was similarly cornered. I came out to see her haggling over another two jars. Should we politely excuse ourselves and take off? Would that be an affront? Though this was getting pricey, we decided to buy.
Then, as we were leaving with the peppers, the old man thrust out his hand. Not to wish us well, or send us off on our journey with a friendly handshake. Nope. To use the bathroom, he said in so many words, would be 2 euros.