Two months after the murder-suicide of her millionaire parents, Randi Jacobs thought her brother Mark was deliberately hiding their wills. She e-mailed his lawyer on June 18 to ask for copies.
A few hours later, Mark wrote a lengthy e-mail to Randi from his iPhone. He called her behavior "a tornado of irrational anger" and then laid bare decades-old tensions in the family of Irwin Jacobs, one of the Twin Cities' most prominent business figures and a nationally known corporate raider in the 1980s and '90s.
"Waste all the money and energy you want on lawyers trying to hurt others and trying to get money from your father's estate whom you were not only estranged from but said was not even your real father," Mark wrote.
He added, "No need to communicate with me anymore, as clearly you are not stable or trustworthy and now have chosen to do it all through lawyers."
The fight spilled into the open last week after lawyers for Randi Jacobs won a temporary court order stopping Mark and other siblings from conducting an estate sale at the Lake Minnetonka home of Irwin and Alexandra Jacobs.
The immediate issue was whether the sale included possessions of Randi's, but the two siblings have argued for months over her share of the inheritance. Her brother told her their father's debts overwhelmed the family fortune and she might not get anything.
The case, playing out in Hennepin County Court in Minneapolis, has revealed deep-seated animosity that's likely to complicate an estate settlement process already made difficult by the way Irwin Jacobs lived and died.
"The tragedy of this situation is that it happened, and the bigger tragedy is that the kids have been left to deal with this ambiguity as a result of the way their parents died," said Tom Hubler, a Minneapolis-based consultant on family-owned businesses.