Playwright Leah Nanako Winkler is not ashamed to say it. She wanted a "Hot Asian Doctor Husband."
"It was 2017, I think, and at the time I was going through a lot of complicated feelings regarding race and dating and I thought, 'I really want to end up with a hot Asian doctor husband," recalled Winkler. Her dark comedy of the same name, commissioned by Theater Mu, gets its world premiere Friday at Mixed Blood Theatre.
That thought came from a couple of places: Her mother's serious illness made Winkler reflect on her Japanese heritage. And a bunch of weddings revealed that if you want to know how segregated this country remains, go to weddings.
"My family is extremely diverse. My sister is married to a black dude. My mom is Japanese. My dad is white. There are a lot of mixed-race people on both sides of the family, but interracial marriage just isn't as common as we like to believe," concluded Winkler, after celebrating with many un-diverse crowds. "When my mother started getting sick, I struggled with the impulse to want to replicate my own family. I started thinking about: What do I want a marriage to look like? What do I want my family to look like?"
Winkler's play is not an autobiography, but those same questions occupy 20-something Emi (played by Meghan Kreidler), who is biracial. As the twisty comedy begins, Emi dumps her seemingly perfect white boyfriend because she's worried about whitewashing her Japanese culture if she doesn't marry a "Hot Asian Doctor Husband" (Eric Sharp plays the title character, who has no other name).
"I actually googled this," said Winkler. "When you start thinking about race and dating, how can you not be specific? Should I not date white guys? And that conundrum is extremely common, particularly with women: 'Am I whitewashing myself because my boyfriend is white and, if we have kids, they'll be one-quarter Asian?' You can't help but feel like you're erasing part of your culture when you have kids, no matter which side it is you're erasing."
Winkler, whose "Two Mile Hollow" was presented last season by Mu and Mixed Blood, is on the writing staff of the NBC series "New Amsterdam." In writing "Hot Asian Doctor Husband," she drew on: a lifetime of being told she doesn't resemble her mother, her and her friends' experiences with casually racist online dating profiles that specify "not attracted to Asian guys," and her fear that she could lose both her mother and her link to Japanese culture/language.
The playwright, who says half-Asian people are so rare on TV that she keeps a mental list of them, was motivated by a desire to broaden the romantic comedy genre. She's a fan of recent ones featuring Asian-American characters ("Crazy Rich Asians," "Always Be My Maybe," "To All the Boys I've Loved Before"), but it bugs her that they blithely erase biracial people.