It's Monday, I'm 5 miles outside Fargo, more than three hours into a drive, trying to make it to a funeral on time, when suddenly it's there: the wind.
It had been calm or at least seemed calm all the way from Minneapolis until this point, but now it's howling. There's not much to knock it down. It never goes away.
This is the wind of my youth. Grand Forks is my hometown, about an hour north of here, but it's all the same. I'm here at this point in far western Minnesota to say goodbye to my 90-year-old great aunt who has passed away after years of suffering with Alzheimer's.
But suddenly, in this moment, my thoughts turn to the strangest place: Carson Wentz. I'd never given much thought to the ascent of Wentz — who grew up in Bismarck, who starred at North Dakota State, who was made the No. 2 overall pick in the NFL draft, who one day earlier had made a sterling debut in a victory for the Eagles — yet here I was strangely consumed by his story and North Dakota's love affair with him. I drive on, not yet realizing this will become a theme during a very long day.
I step out of the car with minutes to spare and the wind nearly knocks me over. I'm here for a funeral but maybe I'm really here to be reminded of the place from which I came.
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It's a Catholic service, and the Father says some very kind words about my great aunt. Details of some unpleasant parts of her early life are glossed over or not mentioned. We skip ahead to her mid-50s, when she met my great-uncle, a farmer, and married him. She grew up on a farm and suddenly she was a farmer again — and this is basically the only version of her I have ever known. Their land was a destination for family reunions and less formal gatherings — wide open spaces, with plenty of barn cats to discover.
The Father had spoken that morning with my great-uncle, now 92, and asked him about her. "She was always very patient with me," was what my great-uncle told him. "I couldn't have asked for anything more."