Yia Vang has a set of classic stories he loves to tell.
He's just told me the one about the guy who comes up after a Hmong cooking demonstration, cups Vang's big right hand in both of his, looks up earnestly into Vang's eyes, and says, "I just love Thai food."
"I mean, dude, I just spent an hour telling you how Hmong food isn't Thai food," Vang giggles. "You know, I get it that you toured Bangkok last year, but can we listen a little bit?"
He is standing at my stovetop, stirring a potful of a kind of curry, in which some unapologetically fatty pork rib meat is slowly releasing from the bone into a state of semi-rendered silkiness. The air of the kitchen hangs thick with the citric tang of lemongrass and ginger, the almost fruity grassiness of Hmong cilantro, and the acid fumes of freshly sliced Thai chiles. There is also, way down beneath this high-note olfactory noise, the deep, rotten, bass rumble of fish sauce.
"Lemongrass, ginger and garlic," declares Vang, leaning over the pot and inhaling. "Like Hmong sofrito, brother."
I happen to be a 6-foot-1, 250-pounder, but I have never quite commanded my own kitchen to the degree that, I realize now, it can be commanded.
Vang looms mountainously across from me in flip-flops and black apron, under a dome of shaved head, wearing a bib of black beard that might be seen as intimidating, if he didn't regularly let loose with a smile of guileless glee that lights his eyes with merry, mischievous fire.
He replaces the cover of the curry pot, and tilts his head sideways to read the handle. "Ooh," he says. "Le Creuset. You're so fancy."