Ellen Kennedy's house in Edina is packed with memories of more than three decades with her late husband, Leigh Lawton.
They visited nearly 50 countries together, some for work — she the founder of the human rights organization World Without Genocide, he a business professor at the University of St. Thomas — and some for fun. Near the front door is a samovar from Ukraine. There's a whirling dervish from Turkey, puppets from Thailand, paintings from China and Israel and Egypt.
"People say, 'Oh, you had a wonderful life together! You had so many memories!'" Kennedy said. "But at this point I can't get beyond the images from the end. ... I am haunted."
Before his death from cancer in December at 78, Lawton asked his wife to promise to advocate for a law in Minnesota to legalize medical aid in dying. DFL legislators plan to introduce legislation next session that would allow physicians to dispense a life-ending medication to terminally ill patients with less than six months to live; the patients would need to ingest it themselves.
Kennedy hopes to tell her story during legislative testimony: For more than three years, her husband fought hard to live as he struggled with advanced multiple myeloma, an incurable blood cancer. Lawton was hospitalized 17 times. He spent hundreds of days at Mayo Clinic in Rochester. He had a stem-cell transplant and five types of chemotherapy; nothing worked. As his bones weakened, his body buckled into itself. He shrank 6 inches from his 6-foot frame. Surgeons injected cement into his bones to strengthen them.
His body withered to the point he couldn't participate in an experimental drug trial. Then, in November 2022, Lawton decided he was done fighting. The couple cried together, then they made arrangements for hospice.
"When he made that decision at Mayo not to seek more treatment, he wanted to be able to die then and there," Kennedy said. "In the vehicle that transported him from Mayo to the residential hospice, he wished he could have died at that moment."
Instead, he lived an additional 16 harrowing days.