Eric "Pogi" Sumangil describes how so many young Filipino-Americans feel when their parents coerce them into participating in the annual Valentine's Day dance.
They hate the first rehearsal, knowing only that they have been sent here to learn something about their culture and to be schooled in a particular dance.
Then they start to look around at their fellow captives and realize what they have in common.
"You see that all these kids are like me," said Sumangil. "It's completely freeing."
The annual dance has played such a significant role in Sumangil's life that he wrote a play exploring Filipino-American identity through the lens of an event that draws the community together.
"What we never expected to gain was the friendship," said Sumangil of the dance. "It wasn't until the ball that I learned there are so many other Filipino kids."
Randy Reyes directs Sumangil's play, "The Debutante's Ball," which opens Saturday at History Theatre in St. Paul.
Reyes is artistic director of Mu Performing Arts and a fellow Filipino-American. His sister, Stephanie Bertumen, plays the central character of Ana, who struggles to find the balance between assimilating into white Minnesota culture and retaining her traditions.