Robert Kaping and his older brother, Melvin, were nearly 7,000 miles from their New Ulm home in May 1945, churning through the Pacific Ocean near Okinawa, Japan, in the final months of World War II.
That's when the men on the bridge of Bob's destroyer, the USS Drexler, received a "hello signal" via spotlights from Melvin's ship nearby. Bob Kaping shared the anecdote about the brotherly greeting in a May 14, 1945, letter home.
"I'm still going strong; never any complaints on this end," Bob wrote, joking that details of his naval service would have to wait "until I get home" because censors would just blot out specifics.
He never made it home. Just 22, he was trapped in an upper ammunition handling room two weeks later when two Japanese kamikaze pilots attacked and sank the Drexler. Bob Kaping was among 168 dead — and the 67th man from Brown County, Minn., killed in action in WWII.
"He left us so soon, before he settled into what kind of man he'd become," said his niece, LaDonna Wagner, 88, of Durango, Colo. "So many went off to World War II like these brothers, but Bob was the one in our family who never came back. He was a great uncle."
Unlike Wagner, another niece — Sandra Nazarenus, 73 — never met her Uncle Bob. But she's inherited those censored letters, heard the family stories, and keeps a thick file of Bob's records at her home in Madelia, Minn.
"He was a friendly, outgoing congenial person who always had a big smile," Nazarenus said.
Family members aren't the only ones remembering Robert Ervin Kaping as Memorial Day approaches. Gavin Klabechek, a 17-year-old sophomore from Ham Lake, is among 16 students selected nationally to research "Silent Heroes" from WWII. Next month, Klabechek and Christopher Stewart, his social studies teacher at North Lakes Academy Charter School in Forest Lake, will present their research and eulogize Kaping at the National Memorial Cemetery of the Pacific in Honolulu.