Bob and Nancy Feldman met at an ice-skating party in Green Bay when they were 15 and became high school sweethearts.
They married at a time when opposition to the Vietnam War was hitting full stride in America -- and in their own lives. They talked of moving to Canada when Bob's draft card came, but he ultimately headed off to an air base near Saigon.
Decades later, after the legacy of the Vietnam War cut their love story bitterly short, Nancy Feldman looked to Southeast Asia as an unlikely salve. She established a small charity to help Vietnamese families still facing insidious effects of exposure to Agent Orange, the toxic herbicide that doctors said likely was linked to Bob's death from cancer at age 59.
It was an unconventional step, known only to family and a few close friends. As CEO of the Minneapolis health plan UCare, Nancy Feldman viewed it as a modest act of reparation and a supremely private homage to her late husband.
But the U.S. government is taking its first significant steps to clean up the environmental damage caused by spraying defoliants in the Vietnamese jungles, and the antiwar activist in Nancy Feldman has been reignited. After six years of quietly building the fund, she is ready to talk about the work as she prepares to meet the families for the first time.
"The point was never to make it big," said Feldman, 66. "We wanted to remember Bob by trying to do our bit to help right a terrible wrong."
The Bob Feldman Fund is said to be one of the first and largest American charities to give direct aid to Vietnamese people still living in the former war zones. Nancy established it in 2006, the same year Bob died of lymphoma, using $40,000 in government disability payments tied to his illness. She has continued to contribute her monthly widow's check of $1,185, providing the bulk of the funding, with additional donations coming from a small number of family and friends.
The fund has raised about $100,000 to date and helped more than 300 rural families through the War Legacies Project, a Vermont-based charity.