Bill and Suzanne O'Connell's son, Kevin, was the quarterback at San Diego State, and sometimes when they knew his Sunday night was free, they would make the 35-mile drive south from Carlsbad, Calif., for dinners meant to lift his spirits.
He missed spring practices after his freshman season because of shoulder surgery. Tom Craft, the coach who'd recruited Kevin O'Connell to San Diego State, was fired after his sophomore year. The thumb ligament surgery he had after his first game as a junior raised concerns he'd never throw again, and meant he'd have to regain his starting job as a senior.
But after the dinners, his parents would always make the drive back up Interstate 5, amazed their son had flipped the script on them.
"He was always the one to cheer us up," Bill O'Connell said. "He'd say, 'Mom, Dad, I got this.' Now, there were very serious, testing times for him. But he'd talk through it, and at the end of the conversation, he had a whole new optimism."
There is what Bill O'Connell calls a "family stubbornness" coursing through the O'Connells' two children: Kelly, a lawyer, and Kevin, the 10th head coach in Vikings history. He uses this term not to imply intransigence, but indefatigability. The kids learned from his 24-year career in the FBI, and from Suzanne's life in education, to forge ahead, to meet a problem with a plan.
"I think he accepted that as a little boy," Bill O'Connell said, "and he exemplifies it now."
It has been eight months since the Vikings started talking about a cultural reset they believed was overdue and badly needed. If that change succeeds, it will be because of a stubbornly cheerful quarterback who took a short-circuited NFL career and became, at 37, the Vikings' youngest head coach in 60 years.
When San Diego State hired Chuck Long to replace Craft, O'Connell was the first player to greet him on campus. When the Patriots cut O'Connell in his second year, he made himself indispensable to the only Jets team to beat Tom Brady in the playoffs. He adjusted blitz packages and prepped starting quarterbacks well enough that Jets teammates called him "Coach O'Connell." He networked with coaches, Bill Belichick among them, who told him how well he'd do in their ranks.