I always think about the horse.
It's a horse I only knew through family tales about those tough years in the Jim Crow South. On the farm where my grandfather was a sharecropper, a white man who owned the property patrolled the land on a tall horse and made sure everyone knew he had the power. If my grandfather had not already felt inferior, the daily presence of that imposing image reinforced who he was as a Black man.
My father saw it, too. To this day, it's not easy for him to look people eye-to-eye. Growing up 100 miles from where Emmett Till was murdered, on land he knew his family would never own, he was a little boy who was told to follow a simple rule: Never stare at a white person, if you want to live.
The generational trauma I have fought to overcome in my life is attached to that horse. It's the reason I do not shrink in predominantly white spaces. I am fearless in ways my father and grandfather could not have been in 1950s Mississippi. I say what I feel. I say what I think. I say what I believe, while also acknowledging the malleability of our perspectives. What I know today could change tomorrow.
But we all should have the opportunity to express ourselves, even when those views are polarizing — assuming those views do not aim to incite violence or other forms of harm. That's why I told the Star Tribune to keep the comments open on every column I write. At the beginning, there were conversations about eliminating the comments section on each piece because we knew how some people might respond to commentary around social justice, discrimination and racism. But I didn't think that was fair. I also wanted people to see the toxicity that lingers here for themselves.
With the exception of a handful of columns I've written over the last two years, comments have always been allowed. The comments don't move me, either way. Not the good or the bad.
Over the last few years, however, a group of critics have assembled in the comments.
That's fine. Their collective response and complaint seems to be this: They think I just repeat myself every time I write. I'm banging the same old drum, they say. Maybe they're right.