My good life has long roots.
I was 37 years old, three months pregnant with my daughter, a year after my father's death in 1992. I was doing freelance copy editing to support our family in Duluth after moving here from Los Angeles.
I was standing in the woods, tropically lush in July, barefoot on the red-dirt path, listening to Chester Creek, smelling cedar. My dad had grown up playing in this park but had been gone from this city for a long time. He'd been a small-town doctor who'd loved his working life and where it took him: Madagascar, Switzerland, a floating clinic on his boat on Lake of the Woods. I thought about how he seized his desire and ran with it. He ignored normal family life, and also ignored exhaustion and fear. He held on, and that work created him.
I decided then that that was what I had to do — my work.
I'd always served others' work. I'd graduated with majors in fine arts, then roamed around the country, doing various pickup jobs. I went to grad school in English, then quit to go with my new husband to Los Angeles so he could get his MFA.
I worked there as an editor at an excellent literary press, where I learned a lot. I had a son, who, along with my daughter, taught me a million things, like that the world is much deeper and kinder than you thought, and time is limited.
As L.A. descended into violence in the late 1980s, we decided to move to Duluth. We returned to Minnesota without a lot of employment prospects beyond my copy editing.
Standing in the woods, I knew I had to stop waiting. Whatever I wanted I had to make, myself, from whatever I had to hand.