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I want to commend attorneys Caitlinrose Fisher and Matthew Forsgren for successfully appealing the conviction of Stephanie Clark for second-degree murder of her violent boyfriend ("Woman wins appeal in shooting," March 31).
In 1959, my Aunt Lila shot and killed her husband following seven years of violent beatings, having a knife held to her throat and a gun waved at her head and at her baby boy. She was charged with second-degree murder and went to trial in Crow Wing County, Minnesota. In a memoir titled "To Be Brave," the trauma of our family's experience with domestic violence is recounted in detail. Domestic violence is so laden with shame and humiliation for the victim; it is hidden from family and friends. For the perpetrator it is about control at any cost to the partner and children. For families impacted by domestic violence, it becomes the family secret.
The most often asked question is, why don't women leave? Hennepin County Attorney Krista White said that Clark "had every opportunity to leave or make different choices that night," which reveals a lack of understanding of what women in these situations are up against. Women remain because they often have no resources. They are simply trying to survive and protect their children. The better asked question is, why are men so violent?
Research shows that when women become violent, the main motivation is self-defense. Women with the fewest options commit violence against partners. Sadly, many of these women are convicted due to a lack of understanding about the means of control and escalating cycles of domestic violence.
In 1959, our family experienced a miracle. Due to the skilled legal work of attorney Joe Ryan, a jury was educated and my Aunt Lila was found not guilty.
My Aunt Lila was one of the women who survived. As Clark's trial lawyer, Eric Doolittle, said, victims are often killed, but when they kill their abusers in self-defense, victims are prosecuted. It is now 64 years later and, finally, people are being asked to take a critical look at how we prosecute battered women.