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This year marks the 54th anniversary of the Stonewall uprising.
I am a queer, cis, 60-year-old man. In my lifetime alone, it has been amazing to see attitudes and responses change in regard to the rights of queer citizens and their visibility. From my (admittedly limited) vantage point, I have watched queers move from a sexual identity to a political one — from challenging gender norms to exploring them in new and vital ways; from staying silent to becoming a target market ... and now, disturbingly, the target of political dog whistles and violence.
I am not going to offer a tired trope, "Love is love," because for me the journey to being out and alive in my world has never been about that. There is no denying of course that I have great love in my life, and I am by no means ungrateful for that — but my love was never anything the laws of the land or even my faith could regulate. It is as natural to me as breathing, and as essential. But my safety, my rights and my protections to home and employment — those are subject to the laws of the land, and those are impacted by public perception and even by whim.
Take a moment to consider if your safety and ability to live freely in this country were subject to referendum. Consider if the protections of your marriages — visitation rights, homeownership, Social Security — were not only less than a decade old, but also constantly under discussion. These are not questions of "Love is love." These are the things that keep me up at night.
On June 28, 1969, a group of gay, lesbian, bi, trans and queer citizens stood up against a routine bar raid at the Stonewall Inn in New York. They routed the police, upended the West Village and led an uprising that brought national attention to the rights denied queer citizens and the treatment of those citizens in this country.
As we close out Pride Month, and we manage a particularly heated political time for the visibility and rights of queer citizens, please put aside your feelings about love and remember this is a discussion about the safety, dignity and rights of individuals. Love is our nature; dignity, safety and rights are what we owe one another as a country.