Vacations? Flowers? Massages? How to save for what makes you feel good

You probably know to plan and save for the big and boring expenses, or financial needs. But what about the fun stuff?

Expenses that don't put a roof over your head, but do provide joy, rejuvenation and other hard-to-quantify benefits, are worth saving for, too.

In fact, they deserve their own account, says Delia Fernandez, a Los Alamitos, Calif.-based certified financial planner.

"Figure out what keeps you going, what makes all of this worthwhile to you, and … put money aside to make that happen," she says.

What kinds of expenses are we talking about?

When it comes to feel-good expenses, each person has their own preferences, says Aja Evans, a New York-based financial therapist and licensed mental health counselor. For example, some people would find an intense cycling class to be energizing and confidence-boosting. Others would rather do pretty much anything else.

Consider which goods, services and activities typically bring you joy. Yes, your budget will determine what, exactly, you can afford. But for now, reflect. Fernandez asks: "What's going to get you through these times? And what makes your life valuable? What refreshes you; what inspires you?"

A few ideas: services like massages; goods like fresh flowers; activities like vacations and date nights.

Why should I set up a feel-good account?

Earmarking money for these kinds of expenditures may help you be more intentional with spending. For example, say you put $25 from each paycheck in a vacation fund. With that money safely stashed, you can't mindlessly spend it on impulse purchases. You're also protecting that money from financial demands.

Say you have up to $50 to spend each month on brunch with friends, and you've already spent $35. This weekend, maybe you still enjoy brunch but skip the mimosa that would put you over the $15 you have left.

Ideally, this plan also hedges any potential guilt about spending money on yourself. As Fernandez says: "You put it aside for that purpose."

How do I swing this in my budget?

Hopefully you've been persuaded to treat yourself in the new year. Now plan for those treats.

One way to determine how much you can afford to spend is to apply the 50/30/20 rule to your monthly take-home income.

The goal of this budget method is to split your money this way: 50% toward needs, 30% toward wants and 20% toward savings and debt repayment. Your new feel-good fund would come from that "wants" category.

Here's another approach: Start with your monthly after-tax income, then subtract all the necessary expenses (needs), which include housing, food, transportation, basic utilities, insurance, child care and other expenses that enable you to work, as well as minimum loan payments.

Next, subtract contributions toward savings goals (like an emergency fund), as well as payments toward retirement accounts and debts.

What's left is your discretionary money. Decide how much of that to regularly contribute to your new fund. "That could be $10. That could be $50. That could be $100," Evans says. "The main point is that you're actually setting aside the money."

Ideally, these contributions go directly from your paychecks to a new fund, Fernandez says. (Work with your employer to set up a new direct deposit.) If that method is unavailable, set up recurring automatic transfers from your everyday checking to the new account.

Where do I keep this money?

Fernandez recommends keeping this fund in an online savings account, in which you'll likely earn interest.

Note that you're typically limited to six withdrawals or transfers per month from savings accounts before incurring fees. That rule has been temporarily relaxed during the pandemic, but to avoid fees in the future, consider a savings account only for infrequent withdrawals. Use it for your monthly spa visit, for example. Or watch your savings grow as you collect cash for a trip or large purchase.

If you plan to use this fund more than six times per month — say, for frequent morning smoothies — opt for a checking account. Open it at a financial institution you don't already use, so the new account isn't too easy to tap for everyday expenses. Aim for a free account, with no monthly fee or minimum balance. A few of those checking accounts even earn a little interest.

Laura McMullen writes for NerdWallet.