While my husband was getting a haircut, he and the stylist made small talk. "What kind of dog do you have?" she asked.
Angus is a mix, Doug told her — border collie, cattle dog, German shepherd and AmStaff. To which the stylist asked, "Oh, is he reactive? My sister's dog is a lot of those things and he's really reactive."
She was, Doug told me later, completely matter-of-fact. As if being reactive is a totally normal thing for a dog.
What a wonder.
Until a year ago, I had never heard the term "reactive dog." But once I started consulting Mr. Google about Angus' troublesome behaviors — barking at people and dogs, flinching at the sound of trains thundering past, growling at our veterinarian — every Google search led me to that term.
I resisted it for a long time. A reactive dog, I thought incorrectly, is a bad dog. A poorly trained dog. A dangerous dog. That's not Angus. Angus is just ... excitable.
But I kept googling. And eventually I came to accept that Angus is, indeed, reactive, and that reactive dogs are not bad and only a very few are dangerous. They are dogs that need a lot of training in order to calm down and get safely through life.
All dogs react — they bark at squirrels, or they jump on house guests, or they chase cats. A reactive dog is one that overreacts.