Six years ago I went camping on the North Shore with two friends. We took off for an out-and-back hike, steep and rocky. My friends were in decent shape, but I was struggling with a couple of ailments. I was a bit unsteady: I have an inner ear disorder that sometimes messes with my balance. It's not enough to make me fall, but enough for me to be aware that I'd be less likely to recover my footing if I did stumble. I picked my way along the path more cautiously than usual. My hip was aching, too, more and more the farther we hiked.
My friends made an effort to slow down for me, but they kept falling into the natural rhythm of their own hiking pace. I did my best to keep up but finally decided it would be less frustrating and exhausting if I waited for them as they headed to the end point, especially because we only had a limited time before it got dark.
I always enjoy being alone in nature and knew that there would be time for visiting around the fire, but I hit a low point on that path. I gave in to the idea that it was downhill from there, certain that my body would continue to keep me from enjoying the company of my more-fit friends and, at some point, from enjoying the outdoors as I had been used to.
I didn't know it in that moment, but I would have to help this aging body get on board.
I've belonged to a couple of outdoors groups off and on over the years. I have watched as members dropped in and out with joint injuries, heart problems, cancer treatments. We might see them at social gatherings, if at all, and when we do, the talk often becomes more about health, less about hiking and biking.
This happens in other areas of our lives, of course — at work, with family — but with people whose common bond is physical activity, the losses can be particularly difficult. A dear friend whose social life was based on hiking, camping and canoeing trips had a minor stroke, and in the months that followed he stubbornly, and sometimes dangerously, tried to do the activities he had done.
His stamina wasn't enough to complete canoe trips; cross-country skiing was downright dangerous as his balance had suffered; he could hike, but more slowly than the slowest-paced member of any of our groups. He often overestimated how far he could go, and more than once on urban hikes I had to leave him waiting on a bench while I fetched the car.
The worst part was that his mental health deteriorated as both his activity level declined and the ready social connections of trips and outings were no longer available to him. He struggled with depression.