Lying in a hospital bed in Germany, Mike McElhiney wasn't thinking about the arm that got blown off below the elbow or the wound carved out of his chest. He was wishing he were dead.
He worried his wife would leave him, or that strangers would consider him a freak. He cried when he saw himself in the mirror with his first prosthetic. He feared he'd become the Tom Cruise character in "Born on the Fourth of July."
But by the time he got transferred to Ward 57 at Walter Reed Army Medical Center in February 2002, the Green Beret committed to a new mission: to heal before he reunited with his kids, to get strong enough to play ball and swim with them, and to move forward with his life.
He quickly connected with the DAV and attended a sports clinic for disabled veterans. He worked seven years as a trainer for the Minnesota National Guard in Rochester and got a job with the Minnesota Department of Veterans Affairs, first as legislative director then as chief of staff, where he helps veterans seek higher education and employment, assists them in navigating the federal bureaucracy for claims and benefits, and works to maintain state veteran cemeteries.
On Saturday, McElhiney was honored for that work with the prestigious Disabled Veteran of the Year award at the Disabled American Veterans convention in Tampa, Fla.
"When you're in Special Forces, you go into an unknown situation, and you have to improvise," said Larry Herke, MDVA commissioner and McElhiney's boss. "He carries himself the same way today. Mike has demonstrated that an injury you get in a wartime situation is not an end to your life and is not going to hold you back. That's what he shows to younger service members: There's life beyond the service."
A new reality
When McElhiney was growing up in Kansas City, a military career was almost assumed. His dad was a Vietnam veteran and a police officer, his grandfather a World War II pilot. He loved "Top Gun" and pretended to be Rambo in the backyard.
When he joined the U.S. Army Special Forces in the mid-1990s, he knew being an elite Green Beret meant he may have to lay down his life for his country. He made peace with that.