One of my favorite gifts to myself is reviewing the year by checking in with some of the gracious subjects of my columns. In a year that we likely agree was surreal at best and violent at worst, it's a relief to be reminded of the many good-hearted people working quietly and diligently to lighten the load for others. Here are a few updates.
Forced adoptions
The women of Concerned United Birthparents (CUB) received an outpouring of support nationwide after sharing their heart-wrenching stories about being forced to give up their babies as young single women. Louise Gardner's 93-year-old father made copies of the column "and included it as a Christmas love story inside his own personally-made Christmas cards." Pat Glisky reports that a birth mother attended her first CUB meeting (cubirthparents.org/twin_cities.php) after reading the piece, buoyed to learn about other mothers like her. The women of CUB continue to work on a long overdue law change that would open adopted children's birth records.
Technically speaking
After featuring the rock star women of Dunwoody's Women in Technical Careers (WITC), numerous donors stepped up, including one with a scholarship check for $50,000 to support female students majoring in technical fields, where they are greatly underrepresented. (Gratitude emoji here!) Several of the women graduating in 2017 have secured paid internships or jobs, but WITC (dunwoody.edu/women) always is eager to hear from potential employers. The fall 2017 class soon will be announced.
Alimony reform
Michael Thomas, chairman of Minnesota Alimony Reform Inc., calls 2016 "an incredible journey into reforming alimony law." Since Gov. Mark Dayton signed the Cohabitation Alimony Reform bill in August, (mnalimonyreform.com), a number of parties cohabiting while one of them receives spousal maintenance have settled with the payer spouse, instead of going to court, he said. Less encouraging, Thomas is frustrated by "court setbacks where some judges have not really followed the intent of the law." He acknowledges that the law needs refining, something he and others will address in the coming legislative session. He continues to "press for the right to retire and removing lifetime alimony from the books. I am optimistic," Thomas said, "that obligees and obligors of alimony really do want to have finality to their divorces."
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